How do you hear?

The messages we receive throughout our lives leave marks upon our souls.

They can then impact the way in which we live our lives and the relationships we have with others.

As a young child I learnt early on to listen not only with my ears but also to listen to the messages that were given through no sound but, through the actions of those around me. The message I received at this early age was that the world could be a fearful place, and this made it hard to trust anyone or anything.

This led to confusion and a belief that I should above all else, never share the real me with others. I learnt that, for me, relationships with people meant pain. Pain that seemed unavoidable and often had awful consequences for me and others.

The reality was that at these times I was triggered, and I didn't know how to deal with it.

The messages that I had learnt so long ago distorted the way in which I heard things, my hearing was broken and distorted. I then would project the pain I felt onto others and back into myself.

So how do we change the way in which we hear? How can the messages that have been running through our minds for years be replaced? And what would we replace them with?

These are the questions I was faced with as a woman in embarking on a journey that was unknown and at times frightening. A journey of recovering from the messages that had shadowed me my entire life.

Through this process of recovery, I learnt how to identify when I am triggered, when my hearing is not at its best and is distorting what is incoming. I have learnt how to deflect these missiles at my mind, body and soul.

So how did I do this?

I learnt through the supports of others who guided me through this new way of hearing. The support at my most vulnerable and fragile, has taught me to listen differently. To cut the tape that is playing and replace it with beauty, honesty and integrity. It has taught me that the world is not a place to be feared, it is a place in which I get to learn, love and create an amazing life for myself and my children. It has taught me that trust is something that is to be treasured and that I can develop this for myself and others.

But, the most vital of lessons that it has taught me is that I was not created to live this life alone, I am here to share this life with you, with my loved ones and with those who walk this life journey with me.

It has taught me that secrets are the lock to my heart and to hearing you clearly. With this knowledge I share myself with others in the hope that my healing continues, in the hope that my children learn that expressing oneself is a gift to be shared, and in the hope that by sharing something of myself that others learn to do the same.

There are many ways in which we hear, how are you hearing today?

'Shining the light Inside'